Mistakes, Healing and Ho'oponopono

Mistakes.

A fundamental and default setting that we all come with is making mistakes. No human ever progressed without committing at least one in his or her lives. In fact, our civilization is standing upon a pile of mistakes that we made, have still been doing and probably will commit for times to come.

Interestingly, with mistakes comes the guilt and repentance. However, is that it? We ought to remain in guilt and repent forever? We will make mistakes and stay in grief over them?

No!

You learn from them. That is what you do.

Guilt and Repentance are the precursors to learning from your mistakes. Simply grieving about what you did is not going to help at all. You need to collect yourself, all that guilt and use it as fuel to transform yourself. Bring about a change in your perception and mend what went wrong in the first place. It is true that while you made a mistake at something, someone else might be excelling at the very same thing. And that is perfectly fine. We all have our shortcomings and it is never too late to correct them.

Most people get stuck at the guilt phase. They begin to look at someone, who is doing wonders at the same thing. That is where they begin to fell into the abyss of negative emotions because they are constantly trying to compare themselves.

Hey wait! Do not be too hard on yourself.

Instead, try to understand why they are excelling at it; the gap that you are missing on.

I call it your "Emotional Gap Analysis".

Now that takes courage and strength to bring about an acceptance for your shortcomings. Until you accept, no one can save you from being stuck in your guilt which will lead to depression. With depression comes about a swarm of dominoes falling over your mental health and boy, it gets tough!

Therefore, the first step to your transformation from the point of guilt at having made a mistake is to accept that there was a missing link "within you". Once you figure that, start building from there by asking for forgiveness and then forgiving yourself too.

This is where I would like to highlight an interesting concept of interconnectedness.

If you believe that there is a creator, who is omnipresent then you carry that creator dust within you too. We all agree that nothing is perfect and so neither are you. In the grand scheme of this universe, we are all en route to perfection, which will not come by until you do these two things: Forgive yourself and others and learn.

The concept of interconnectedness also teaches that all of us are connected. Really connected. What this means is that whatever hurt someone is going through is also within you. Whomever you come across around you, family, friends, strangers or anyone else, we all are interconnected with each other. Therefore, it falls upon us to take the responsibility for what the other person is going through. Now whether it is your direct fault or not depends on the situation but the core of the teaching is to take responsibility for people around you.

When you understand that it is your responsibility that someone is hurt, you realize what it means to be an empath.

It is very easy to pin down the fault and blame on others. The human mind is adept at finding an escape from taking the responsibility but that is where the chance to grow lies. That is when you become a better human. If someone is hurt because of you, of course, there will be numerous arguments around who did what, why and how it all went wrong. However, this is the spider’s web if you fall for it. Instead, you take a pause and accept the actual concern at hand. That someone is hurt. They are in your life and they are hurt. That's it. They are in your life, they are a part of you and hence, you are responsible. When you do that, you are displaying empathy...

Take charge, accept it as your responsibility to help them heal from that hurt and be with them through the process. Ignore the game of finding faults, blames and arguments, rather, accept the fact that there must be something within you that resulted in such hurt.

Always remember that the road to healing begins from you.

You are the center of your little world and this whole universe. That is your power. It is your responsibility to build a better life for people in your world. You do that and that is when you transform into a better human.

So, whether or not it was your mistake towards someone that got them hurting, it is far more important to understand, realise and accept that they are hurting and they are a part of your life, a part of your world. Hence, their well-being is your responsibility. Their hurt is also your hurt and it is somewhere inside you too. Be receptive about it. Be open to accept that their hurt lies within you too and then ask the divine for forgiveness. Spread love.

That's how you start healing yourself and the world around you... This is Ho'oponopono healing...

"I am sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you"

- Kartikeya